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The so called 'Save Act' passed in the House, and that could not have happened without support from some Democrats who have now proven to be bought by corporate interests. Please check the votes of your state representatives to ensure you vote them out next time, and let them know what you think about them saying 'yes' to disenfranchising women!

And, please ladies, stop changing your surname if you get married. Not only are you relinquishing your identity, but you are allowing a man to claim ownership over you like a slave.

I understand why many of you don't think of it that way when you're in love, but the reality is about 50% of marriages end in divorce. How many times are you going to go through the hassle of changing your nsme on your license, your credit cards, and everything else of importance?

Do you think a man would ever be willing to forego the only identity he's ever known, regardless of love? What about any children you have? Don't you think the person who actually gives birth should have a say in not only the child's identity, but their own? Hyphens are the well and good middle ground, but become impractical down the generational line as any Latina/o will tell you!

Long ago, I told my then boyfriend I would never change my surname as he had to twist my arm for well over a decade to get me to tie the knot! To his credit he never became angry, but fully respected and accepted my CHOICE. On the other hand, I've actually had a few liberal friends who'd roll their eyes at me when I insisted they stop adding my husband's surname to mine on Xmas and b'day cards! Well, who's rolling their eyes now!

It just illustrates how deeply indoctrinated even educated liberal women can become when they're taught to give up the pride and empowerment that comes from building a boundary around their 'born identity'. For instance, I have a friend who's now changed her surname for the THIRD TIME! And that makes me feel like we're so much further away from equality than we were even back in the still evolving 90s. Frankly, it's disheartening and disappointing, and if we don't change these unwritten rules, even those that seem mundane or 'not a big deal', we will confront more WRITTEN LAWS like Dobbs and the Save Act which strip even more of our centuries long, hard fought rights.

We must change the gender discourse and all the annoying little rules that accompany it. First, we are the true Protectors and Providers of life and sustenance, so ACT LIKE IT, DAMMIT!

We see this 'bite the bull' to feed- the-pups dynamic play out in the females of nearly every other species who fight off predators and hunt. Yet for some reason we have allowed males to flip nature's script by making us fully dependent on men to live! How has that worked out? All the struggling single mothers will tell you it SUCKS, especially when women earn 80 cents to every male dollar, while working two to three jobs to barely get by as they lose quality time with their kids! And where are these great protector provider dads? No one knows!

So what's in a name? FUCKING EVERYTHING!

M. Lisa Colvin's avatar

Thank you. May not seem like much, but you brought the price in range for me. Now a paid subscription, not just a free one ;-)

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