Men’s emotional conditioning is real. So is their responsibility to unlearn it without turning women into unpaid therapists, trauma sponges, or customer service representatives for male disappointment
Women have their own patriarchal/social conditioning/skills issues to grapple with.
They are also told that if they defy their social conditioning that they can never be partnered, never be valued, never be happy.
It’s what social conditioning is! It’s lies about who you are, and what you are for, what you’re capable of, and what your opportunities are.
Because women have fought so hard for their own progress, we now have a multitude of voices describing what women can be. Some of women’s social conditioning has been seriously eroded. It took centuries. But most women in the US are not raised to believe women can’t exist in the public sphere. Hoorah! Nobody held our hands and murmured encouraging words during those centuries. No one offered us the liberation from that conditioning.
They still don’t. The fight isn’t over, and our social conditioning is still used against us. To trap us and keep us in our cages. But some of us legitimately freer of our social conditioning than those who came before. Perhaps you’ve seen that freedom and felt jealous. If so, know that it was hard won. Know that women built it for themselves from wisdom we carried inside ourselves the whole time. Just as the wisdom to fight patriarchy exists, hidden under the shit, in men too.
For any men who are ready to embark on the journey of introspection, who are ready to do their homework, I will say: It is so worth it. No, you don’t get a cookie, or ready access to the woman who’s rejected you. You get something better - yourself. The capacity to be empowered by your own integrity. An expanded imagination about what’s possible for you and possible for society. So worth it.
This is awesome and certainly deserves much more attention from me than I can give on first blush as it is long and it's late here. Thank for sharing so much of your time and wisdom. I will be spending much more time on this excellent post.
'Grown men are responsible for doing their own damn homework' A wonderfully succinct summary.Thank you for another really interesting post, it helps with the homework.
The icon you are for writing this after that guy got offended by your last post!!!!
Maybe moms stop calling their very average sons “king” “prince” and other dog names that imply royalty.
When they aren’t.
Women have their own patriarchal/social conditioning/skills issues to grapple with.
They are also told that if they defy their social conditioning that they can never be partnered, never be valued, never be happy.
It’s what social conditioning is! It’s lies about who you are, and what you are for, what you’re capable of, and what your opportunities are.
Because women have fought so hard for their own progress, we now have a multitude of voices describing what women can be. Some of women’s social conditioning has been seriously eroded. It took centuries. But most women in the US are not raised to believe women can’t exist in the public sphere. Hoorah! Nobody held our hands and murmured encouraging words during those centuries. No one offered us the liberation from that conditioning.
They still don’t. The fight isn’t over, and our social conditioning is still used against us. To trap us and keep us in our cages. But some of us legitimately freer of our social conditioning than those who came before. Perhaps you’ve seen that freedom and felt jealous. If so, know that it was hard won. Know that women built it for themselves from wisdom we carried inside ourselves the whole time. Just as the wisdom to fight patriarchy exists, hidden under the shit, in men too.
For any men who are ready to embark on the journey of introspection, who are ready to do their homework, I will say: It is so worth it. No, you don’t get a cookie, or ready access to the woman who’s rejected you. You get something better - yourself. The capacity to be empowered by your own integrity. An expanded imagination about what’s possible for you and possible for society. So worth it.
This is awesome and certainly deserves much more attention from me than I can give on first blush as it is long and it's late here. Thank for sharing so much of your time and wisdom. I will be spending much more time on this excellent post.
The Manosphere is a union-busting cult.
'Grown men are responsible for doing their own damn homework' A wonderfully succinct summary.Thank you for another really interesting post, it helps with the homework.