A few years ago, personal responsibility was a very popular argument from certain corners of the internet. I think it's fair to apply it here, too. Blaming women for personal failings is the height of entitlement.
My mom was not a yeller. In fact she had been traumatized as a toddler by her roaring in anger and throwing a bowl of mashed potatoes across the dining table at her mom. So in fact just being around loud voices often elicited tears that she tried to hold at bay. I say this because when my brother was young, all my mom had to do is try to quietly correct him or say "no" and he would clap both hands over his ears and shout "quit yelling at me!". This would bring a quizzical look to my mom's face and at that point it did no good to argue as, with my brother, it didn't matter if you agreed or disagreed with him, either way, you were in the wrong. I can now see that this is a typical Dodge for men who don't like to be told no. But it amazes me that he picked it up at such a young age. Keep up the good work. Don't let the morons gaslight you. What good is having a smart mom if all she is a reference in place of an Accomplishment?
I can see I could have edited a little better. That was my mom's dad who was yelling and throwing bowls of mashed potatoes, when my mom was 2 years old. But you probably guessed that.
Love this! Many men are gravely incapable of sitting with discomfort and for years the buffer for that discomfort was women. Once women gained equal footing, the entire patriarchal structure began crashing down because it was a farce to begin with.
"It has been showing up for so long that the archive is basically one long receipt printed by a furious CVS machine." OH, ProfessorMEREDITH! And: "A woman wanted knowledge and a snack, and somehow men made that everyone’s problem forever." I fell on the floor laughing reading those sentences. You won the internet today, my dear. Brava! xo
You may absolutely say that. It is perfectly perfect in every way. If you ever decide to leave academia, I see you having a great future as a snarky, bitchy stand-up comedian. You'll probably earn more, too. xo
A few years ago, personal responsibility was a very popular argument from certain corners of the internet. I think it's fair to apply it here, too. Blaming women for personal failings is the height of entitlement.
Thanks, Prof.
--Great article.
Fantastic article! I thoroughly enjoyed reading this.
My mom was not a yeller. In fact she had been traumatized as a toddler by her roaring in anger and throwing a bowl of mashed potatoes across the dining table at her mom. So in fact just being around loud voices often elicited tears that she tried to hold at bay. I say this because when my brother was young, all my mom had to do is try to quietly correct him or say "no" and he would clap both hands over his ears and shout "quit yelling at me!". This would bring a quizzical look to my mom's face and at that point it did no good to argue as, with my brother, it didn't matter if you agreed or disagreed with him, either way, you were in the wrong. I can now see that this is a typical Dodge for men who don't like to be told no. But it amazes me that he picked it up at such a young age. Keep up the good work. Don't let the morons gaslight you. What good is having a smart mom if all she is a reference in place of an Accomplishment?
I can see I could have edited a little better. That was my mom's dad who was yelling and throwing bowls of mashed potatoes, when my mom was 2 years old. But you probably guessed that.
Honestly it would make sense either way. No matter what gender is heaping abuse it's going to leave scars.
Love this! Many men are gravely incapable of sitting with discomfort and for years the buffer for that discomfort was women. Once women gained equal footing, the entire patriarchal structure began crashing down because it was a farce to begin with.
"It has been showing up for so long that the archive is basically one long receipt printed by a furious CVS machine." OH, ProfessorMEREDITH! And: "A woman wanted knowledge and a snack, and somehow men made that everyone’s problem forever." I fell on the floor laughing reading those sentences. You won the internet today, my dear. Brava! xo
That Eve line was condensed perfection, if I do say so myself 😂
You may absolutely say that. It is perfectly perfect in every way. If you ever decide to leave academia, I see you having a great future as a snarky, bitchy stand-up comedian. You'll probably earn more, too. xo
Might do 😂